Nancy Dorothy Becker
With heavy hearts and deep affection, we announce the passing of our beloved mother, grandmother, wife, sister, aunt and friend, Nancy Dorothy Ludlam Becker. A lifelong resident of Madison, Connecticut, Nancy peacefully passed away on May 1st, 2025, surrounded by the love of her family. She will be profoundly missed by all who knew her.
Born on February 9, 1941, in Belmont, Massachusetts, Nancy was raised in Lexington, Massachusetts by her devoted parents, Lester and Dorothy Ludlam, alongside her sisters Claire and Isabelle, and her younger brother, Lester “Butch.” She often spoke fondly of her childhood, describing it as joyful and magical — cherished as a little doll by her older sisters and later delighted to welcome her baby brother. Summers spent at The Camp on White Pond in Concord, Massachusetts, remained some of her most treasured memories throughout her life.
A proud graduate of the arts program at Vermont College, Nancy was a lifelong learner who embraced every stage of life with curiosity and grace.
On July 28, 1963, Nancy married the love of her life, Peter William Becker. Their marriage was a beautiful partnership rooted in love, loyalty, and deep care. Together, they built a warm and welcoming home where friends and family always felt loved. Their love story was a beautiful testament to the power of partnership and the joy of shared life.
Nancy’s work life was a beautiful reflection of her kind and gentle spirit. She began at the Little Folks Shop in Downtown Madison where her warm and nurturing nature made her beloved by children and families alike. At Phil’s Hair Salon in Madison, she greeted every guest with a soft smile and a welcoming heart, working alongside her dear friend Ronnie Catania. Later, she brought her kindness to the Country Deli with Jimmy Avitabile, and even ran her own food truck, delighting customers with her hearty and delicious homemade food — always served with love, care, and a warm smile.
Nancy devoted decades of her life to the Girl Scouts, where she served as a Brownie and Girl Scout leader, volunteering for over 25 years and guiding and nurturing generations of young girls with her warmth and wisdom. In addition, Nancy’s heart was deeply committed to the Cove Center for Grieving Children, where she volunteered for 25 years. There, she offered unwavering support to grieving families, helping children navigate their sorrow with compassion and understanding. Nancy’s gentle presence and caring nature provided comfort during some of the most difficult times in people’s lives, leaving an enduring legacy of love and healing.
Above all, Nancy was a devoted mother and grandmother. She is survived by her loving husband, Peter Becker, daughters, Sherry Sweitzer [and husband Dale] and Laurie Graziano [and husband Rob], and her cherished grandchildren: Dale Rock, Cory Becker, Liza Ellen, Clay French, Reid Fuller, Emma Becker, Ruby Ellen, Luke Fuller, and Eric Robert. Her love for her family knew no bounds, and her greatest joy was in caring for her grandchildren. She doted on them with a tenderness that only a grandmother could offer, always showing them how much they were loved through small acts of kindness — whether it was baking them cookies and carefully crafting birthday cakes that made every celebration special, giving thoughtful, homemade gifts, or simply spending time together and celebrating every milestone. Her presence brought them comfort, security, and a sense of unconditional love, and she made sure they knew just how special they were to her.
Her happiest times included vacations with family and friends to the Caribbean Islands, Outer Banks, and summers spent at the Surf Club in Madison. She had a gift for making the ordinary extraordinary — decorating her home for every holiday, baking beautifully crafted sugar cookies, creating handmade crafts, and sending thoughtful homemade cards that became keepsakes.
Nancy lived a life of quiet generosity, kindness, and devotion. She was a gentle, loving soul who took care of everyone around her — especially her beloved husband and grandchildren. Her legacy is one of love, laughter, service, and selflessness.
A celebration of her life will be held on May 5, 2025, at 5:00 – 8:00pm at Madison Country Club. In her honor, the family asks that donations be made in her name to the Cove Center for Grieving Children, an organization she supported with all her heart.
She will be missed more than words can express and remembered forever by all who were lucky enough to be loved by her.